negative capability

Working with difficult circumstances

I came across a new (to me) term today. Apparently coined by the poet John Keats in 1818, in a letter to his brothers. Negative Capability, that is, when a man is capable of being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching after fact and reason Negative Capability, then, something I aspire to. It …

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Had enough yet?

Fed up with your work situation?

If you’re fed up with your ongoing stress, overwork, anger and frustration at work – watch this video. I’m talking to you, men.  Then if you want to talk, I’m here:

am i in burnout?

Do I have burnout?

As I reported last year, in May 2019 the World Health Organisation classified burnout as ‘a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed’. The three main experiences they reported in people suffering burnout were feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion; increased mental distance from one’s job, or feelings …

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Do you feel safe?

If you lack a general sense of safety in your life, work, relationships and social life – have you ever wondered why? If, like me, you are pre-millennial (born before 1980) you might recall a different, safer experience of life. Looking back from today it appears quaint, naïve even. The pace of life was slower, …

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How to get your mojo back

Lost your mojo? You’ve been feeling lousy at work – grumpy, irritable and distracted. People are pissing you off. The boss is overlooking you for all the juicy work, because your performance is flat. There’s never enough time to get everything done, yet you’re wasting time on things that don’t matter. You feel guilty and …

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Does overwork cause heart attacks?

One of the symptoms of an approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that one’s work is terribly important.Bertrand Russell The other day a client asked if I thought overwork caused heart attacks. But what is overwork? Let’s define overwork as mental rather than physical, since most of us here work with our heads. Overwork is …

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Life Coaching

Life Coaching is SH*T

There are a lot of people out there suffering work stress in silence. Sometimes I hear from them, and they say something like, yeah, wow, I’ve really got a lot of stress in my job and they roll their eyes, implying that it’s bad, but not so bad that they’re going to do anything about …

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food addiction

Why you are addicted to food

I’ve called this post ‘Why you are addicted to food’ because a very high percentage of my clients and readership tell me they are. Stress, Anxiety, Overwork, Exhaustion, Loss of Reward, Perfectionism and People-Pleasing combine to provide fertile ground for the development of addiction. Food addiction is widespread because: we must eat to live; food …

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