Lost your mojo?
You’ve been feeling lousy at work – grumpy, irritable and distracted. People are pissing you off. The boss is overlooking you for all the juicy work, because your performance is flat. There’s never enough time to get everything done, yet you’re wasting time on things that don’t matter.
You feel guilty and lost, out of flow, fighting everything. There’s a lurking dread that you will lose your job. Things are hanging by a thread.
You’re too ashamed to take your problems home. It’s the same at home anyway, because you’re exhausted and snappy all the time. You feel unloved and unloving. Misunderstood. Your desire to really connect and have fun is long gone.
Still you are frozen, not wanting to admit defeat and ask for help.
So, what are you going to do next?
When I hit the wall at work, I held out for as long as I could. OK, longer. By the time I took the initiative, I was a shell of my former self and things were never going to work out.
When I finally left my job, fleeing the stress, I had a heart attack shortly afterwards.
When the shit hits the fan, which side of the fan do you want to be standing?
Because right now, the stench of a hot breeze is in your face.
Step out from your current way of seeing life.
I will show you how.
What has it cost you so far, this failure to deal with your problems?
- Did your work life improve?
- Are you getting on OK with people at work?
- Is your earning-power high and stable?
- Are your work prospects good?
- How’s your self-care?
- When was the last time you exercised?
- Ate a healthy meal?
- Slept a full night?
- How is your digestion?
- What about your mental wellbeing?
- Have you maintained your friendships and hobbies?
- Are you honouring your commitments?
- How are things with your partner/family?
- What do your plans for next year look like?
- Are you studying?
- Do you give time and space to your creative side?
- Do you care?
- When you look at the picture of your life, who is to blame for your problems?
Is it time for change?
You may have answered more than half of those questions in the negative and if that took you by surprise, I guess that’s why you’re reading this.
The good news is that the answer is in your hands. You have the power to change.
The bad news is that you have to change.
If you’re having a rough time, look carefully about you. You might see that the common denominator in your problems is you.
But in every problem, you have control over at least one thing.
In 2018, I got hit by a car and spent 3 months immobilised in a hospital bed, with only one usable limb (my left arm). On the first day, I forgave the driver. I survived the next week by looking for a new experience and creating thoughts to carry me through. Gratitude at being alive; empathy for my fellow patients; enjoying visits from my friends or sharing a joke with the surgeons. I adapted. I didn’t do this with any saintly impulse. I did it to make the best I could. There was no point in increasing my suffering by complaining or resisting. As Byron Katie says, when you argue with reality, you lose— but only 100% of the time.
So, when it comes to a radical decline in enjoyment and performance at work, what are your choices?
- What you’ve been doing, which is freeze and hope it will pass.
- Change jobs (spoiler alert: your woes will follow you).
- Face the truth and look for ways you can improve your situation.
Do something different
LOOK at yourself. That isn’t the real whole you. Is it?
ACCEPT what is: your situation, the way you feel, your exhaustion. The whole sorry mess. Gently.
CHOOSE to create a bit of space and fresh energy.
EXPLORE where you have influence, given the circumstances.
DECIDE to back yourself and take action.
JUMP. You’ve got to jump.
Do something new, think new thoughts, be different. Grow. Breathe more freely. Recover your self-respect.
ONLY if you want your life to change though.
If you want everything to stay the same, go back to sleep until life fixes itself.
If you choose right now to start feeling better, I can help you. I bring professionals back from the brink. I’ll help you find your mojo and enjoy work again. Remember when work was fun? When you enjoyed a challenge? When you felt like a potent force? THAT.
Dont’ waste any more time feeling crap. I promise you, your suffering is optional. Choose wisely.
I know how you can fix this. I will show you.