Life skills

Upgrade your life skills and enjoy life again with simple but powerful tools that put you back in control


Got debt?

Debt causing stress? Do you have an uncomfortable amount of personal debt? Has your debt-to-earnings ratio increased in recent years? Are you in debt stress? Does debt prey on your mind all the time? I read an article in the Sydney Morning Herald this week about the influence of household debt on the effectiveness of …

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Does being a victim really get you what you want?

I was talking with an associate recently who as a child lived in a highly performance-oriented environment. Study, effort, fortitude and mind-based achievements were the family focus. She became a very high achiever academically. However, her parents both had mental health frailties, and could be demanding, harshly unforgiving and unpredictable. She developed a victim mentality …

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How to outgrow your problems

I hit a bit of a snag recently when I realised I needed to move house rather quickly. I had help making the decision, as I lived in a rented flat and the building was being sold. On balance, staying looked like a very poor option. The thing is, for all my flat’s faults, I’d …

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How to avoid people-pleasing and other misdemeanours

I’m coming a little late perhaps to this book Radical Candor by Kim Scott (ex-Google and Apple). Two years late, to be precise. What was I thinking? Radical Candor is about bosses providing honest, direct and warm-hearted critical feedback to employees. Nothing new, you might say. Interestingly though, the Radical Candor frameworkTM offers four ways …

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What is Burnout?

The World Health Organisation has this year recognised Burnout as a medical condition. WHO defines Burnout as a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed with three attributes feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion; increased mental distance from one’s job, or feelings of negativism or cynicism related to …

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Failure to Launch

I’ve only got one thing on my mind this week. Failure to launch. I have had a few clients this week who are stuck here.  I’ve also been thinking how many new adventures I’ve had in the past few years, and I notice the frequency is increasing. This week and last I’ve opted in to …

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Unmodern Man

An Unlikely Topic Highlighting a Modern Problem My attention this week has been drawn to “The True Believer”#1 by Eric Hoffer, 1951. In the book, Hoffer (a stevedore in San Francisco) discusses the rise of mass movements. I don’t normally study such things, but what caught my attention was this quote describing radicalised people as: …

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Find your happy

You’ve heard a lot of tips on how to be happy, but here’s one I’m going to share because it’s simple and it works anytime, anywhere. Calm Your Nervous System In a similar way to meditation, this technique drops you from: physical stress response (sympathetic nervous system – boosting adrenaline and cortisol for fight or …

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