10 reasons you’re not getting what you want
You need to redraw your map of yourself
- The illusion: You have an image of your minimum weight, maximum bank balance, career potential, earning capacity… etc. that your subconscious mind obeys – it stops you passing that limit and tries to restore homeostasis. Think of people who win the lottery and lose it all.
- Are your limits just comfort zones that need expanding?
- Is it true that any type of potential is limited?
You don’t think you deserve it
- The illusion: You have a vision of yourself as flawed and undeserving of success, in this and probably other areas, based on low self-esteem.
- Who gave you this idea and why?
- Is this idea serving you or do you want to change it?
You doubt you can handle it
- The illusion: The thought of being successful has you wondering how you can live up to it, even before you have it.
- What if this is who you’re supposed to be and success will draw out your natural aptitude?
- What if the learning comes as you move through success, and the illusion is just fear of change/growth?
People won’t like you
- The illusion: People will judge you harshly for your success and you will lose valuable allies and friends, becoming lonely in your success.
- What if you make many new friends, aligned with who you become?
- What if you develop the skill to BE a better friend than ever?
You’ve never had it before
- The illusion: You look to your past for evidence of what is possible in the future.
- What if you believed in yourself now and created evidence of success BEFORE you arrive there?
Your parents didn’t have it
- The illusion: Your parents didn’t have it and you are like them so you shouldn’t have it either.
- What if you parents set you up for this success that you’re refusing to claim?
You think it might be greedy
- The illusion: There’s an upper limit you have for money, success, achievement or acquisition, beyond which you would consider yourself greedy.
- How about if you shifted your limit?
- Will your success benefit others?
You don’t want to be a tall poppy
- The illusion: You worry that people will resent you for your achievement and try to cut you down.
- So what? It will show you that you are following your dreams – less motivated people may not like that
- Are you judging yourself already, for aspiring to this success?
It’s more relaxing/less demanding to stay where you are
- The illusion: Survival instincts will have you stay ‘safe’ in the cave of your current existence, miserable though it may be.
- Are you really loving where you are now, or is your goal worth striving for?
- Envision success and your enjoyment on achieving your goal – it will become more natural and familiar to you. Be the olympic athlete, filling their home with gold before competing.
Each time you try, you fail
- The illusion: Success comes from effort, skill, discipline and being smart, so only highly talented and experienced people can have it.
- Fail often! The more willing you are to fail and keep going, the higher your chance of success
You know, there’s another reason you don’t have what you want…
You’re not willing to acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses, so you’re not willing to ask for expert help.
One of the habits of high achievers is to surround themselves with other high achievers – leveraging their expertise and skills to boost one’s own performance.
I can help you overcome the 10 reasons – it’s my area of expertise to fast-track you to getting what you want.
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